Do you hold a grudge? If someone wrongs will you always remember it? Some people do, but I think most don't. For the most part people will forget or the intensity of their anger just dies out after a while. Which is good. But for the people who just naturally holds on to something nasty that has happened, this can be really bad.

I hold a grudge; I hold grudges for way to long. If somebody does something to me, if it's serious enough, you better believe I will remember. I always thought this was ok; know who your foe is and whom you can trust. And that is good, but when it comes to the point of long lasting grudges, holding on to something until the day you have your revenge this can be a dangerous mental well being. Do obsession ring any bells?

So for the people who do cause harm to us or insult us in a hurtful way, what should we do for those people. Should we seek revenge or some form of retribution? For me I think it's not totally about getting back, it's more of a reckoning letting them know some how that what they did was wrong. But once again that is fine and dandy but how far do we go with this?

I HAVE NO IDEA. I mean it's nice to be able to forgive, but what happens when you just can't and every time you see this person that's all you can think of is what they did. It's a confusing subject to say the least! I guess the only words of wisdom I can offer is to try - No one's perfect and maybe what some person did to you or to me or whoever, perhaps they are legitimately sorry.

All I do know is the person who wastes his thoughts on seeking revenge will go crazy. Because in the process of looking for a way to hurt your foe, not knowing it but your hurting yourself and your friends. So what else to say? Try! No matter how difficult it may seem to forgive and put revenge out of your mind, you have to try just for the sake of your sanity and everyone around you.

- HuDson