One of the most frustrating predicaments anybody can go through. Ever develop a friendship with someone of the opposite sex that you really like, in an intimate kind of way of course. Then only to realize that they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. So it seems all that wasted energy, tryin to get something you want and learning that it's still just out of reach.

True in a sense. But it's kind of shallow. Wouldn't you agree? So ask yourself what was it you were after? You have to go back and redefine the whole situation. What the goal was? What was the cost? And how far were you willing to go?

For some people it may have been just about the score and this is not held exclusively for men - it applies to women too. So if its not going to happen, the only thing that's wounded is our pride. But it really sucks when you like the person in a deep sincere kind of way. Now there is more at risk than pride, there can be some pretty heavy emotions to deal with. This is where it becomes tricky.

So how can we deal with this if the infatuation is sincere? Well once again I guess I'll have to let you down because I honestly have no idea. If you like someone who has a boyfriend or a girlfriend it's difficult because if they've been with this person for a time it's just not right to make a move especially if the guy is a friend of yours but that's a different story. Can you just forget about the whole thing? That also depends, it depends on your desire, and the test of your resolve - if your able to fold it up and pack it away. All in all it is a horrible situation. There is never a sure way to escape it or deny it. You have deal with it! Either confront the person or move on and try to find somebody that is available.

It is just another one of those situations that we have all gotten into, and there is never a sure fire way to get out of. So find the strength deal with it. And ask yourself, how strong is this desire and how bad do I want it?

- HuDson